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Daixy on: Boobs, Vajayjays and Feet, in no particular order…..

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Through out history, in the various parts of the world, there have been several ideas on what women should look like. In most of africa, women are expected to be shapely.  Wide hips more or less guarantee a woman can bear a man’s 15 children and her bantu buttocks are fully expected to cradle a child on her back.  And the giant pendulous breasts?  Oh but certainly both child and husband can enjoy suckling at them 😉  Yes in the western world, thinner bodies are appreciated. An ideal that has led to severe psychological disorders in both male and females (although most often in females) like bulemia and anorexia nervosa. Good job Europe and America.  You’ve turned a female dilemma into a general issue 🙂

For over a thousand years, women in China had their feet routinely broken and bound, with the aim of giving them a wavy “lotus-like gait“.  Feet that are already too small (compared to mine), were shrunk down to fit in two inch shoes from as little as 4 years of age!! Why?  Well because the men felt the lotus gait was sexually stimulating.  How any man could bear to look at his wife’s unbound feet simply befuddles me.  I honestly doubt that they ever assisted with the constant nail trimmings and the massages the poor women had to endure to try and stave off the pain (which they had to endure for the rest of their lives).  

WARNING!!! If you are squeamish, please do not read any farther!!!

Of course, in most of Central Africa, some parts of Arabia and Asia, women were having their labia and clitorises lobbed off.  The reasons, well, people (of course they were male) thought the female genitals were ugly and dirty for one.  Chop them off and a woman would be better equipped to clean herself? Forget that for weeks, she would be afraid to attend to natures call; on account of the acidic nature of her urine would cause fresh reels of pain to course through her nether regions.  Gentlemen, imagine touching yourselves down there with hands that are covered in pepper or a hot liniment.  Think of lemon juice or salt in an open wound.  Why would you subject anyone to this kind of inhumane treatment?

Some (obviously mentally unsound persons) argued that women had no right to enjoy sex and thus insisted on removing the centre of pleasure. What did this lead to?  Frustrated husbands raping their wives, of course.  Well if you make a woman hate sex, why on earth then, would you expect her to WANT to give it up? Yes, these women will stay away from men as intended but did the oh so intelligent males of the species forget that they were in essence, cock blocking themselves? (This actually made me lol.  Amazing what stupidity we can eschew, n’est pas?)

What drew my ire most was one story I read (back in high school) where a frustrated husband; annoyed that he couldn’t get his overly-large african snausage through the tiny passage left by the village wanzam, decided to turn himself into a surgeon.  Without anesthesia, ignoring the basics of sterilization, he beat his wife senseless, cut her open and then proceeded to rape her.

Did anyone think about the degree of pain these poor women would go through during sex, let alone during child-birth, before instituting this atrocious practice?  No wonder many of them sought ways of abortion and rendering themselves barren. I doubt I could ever finish talking about this particular form of mutilation.  It sickens me to the core and there’s absolutely no way I would ever condone it. I’m glad it’s no longer in active practice.  Yes, I know it’s turned into a covert-op in our Northern regions but at least more and more people are aware of it and more women are standing up for themselves.

Women in Victorian England were expected to wear corsets. These tended to plump up the breasts while squeezing the spine into a most uncomfortable shape, cinching the waist into a thinner shape and allowing the hips to flare out.    This practice had it’s own negative effects.  Imagine having your internal organs pushed out of place, as seen in the picture above (corseted woman is on the left). People dealing with scoliosis would want to slap these idiots who willingly bend their spines out of shape!  I know I want to…. On the other end of the boob shape spectrum, Catholic nuns up until the 1930s were required to wear a linen breast binding under their garments in addition to their everyday vestments. Clergy claimed that this measure was designed to eliminate any potential distraction that the nuns’ breasts might cause.Yeah right!  I would far more prefer for wayward priests to go after the nuns than to turn to little children.  How a priest can preach against homosexuality and tout sodomy as an act of the devil, and then force little boys into that act…well that’s a rant for another post methinks.

Oh and let’s not forget the women who had to hide their breasts from men (like Joan of Arc so she would be allowed to play soldier).  Yes, it’s this topic that’s kept me awake since 11pm and will not allow me a moment of peace.  BREAST BINDING!!!  EUGH!!!!  You see, I happened to take a look at Nana Yaw Asiedu’s post Breasts Pressed Messed… yeah, you can lay the blame for my insomnia squarely at his feet.

So, now we’re onto an act that is openly active in this day and age.  Women in Cameroon and other parts south of the Sahara have taken to distorting their daughters’ figures with the sole purpose of making them undesirable to men. Girls as young as nine years old are being subjected to torture in order to prevent them from being raped.  Most women interviewed insist that they want to prevent pregnancy so their daughters can go to school.  They want to save them from the uncontrollable and horny males lurking round the corners.  As always, when the male of the species is unable to control his instinct for debauchery, it is the female who must suffer.  Why are we not bending penises and making them look like pretzels?
What affects me the most about these atrocities to women is how mothers will encourage their daughters to suffer through this.  How they manage to brainwash them into believing that they need to go through with it.  A mother will bind her daughters limbs to her own while a wanzam cuts away at her God-given vajayjay.  She will sob along with her and plead for her to withstand the pain.  Girls have been known to dislocate their shoulders while trying to free themselves from those “maternal” arms.  How can a mother pound her daughter’s breasts into flat misshapen objects and all the while tell her, “you must bear it.  Think about your education”?
The only modification we perform on males is circumcision, which is scientifically proven to be beneficial to them.  And guess what?  We do that in a hospital with trained staff and put them on medication so they do not suffer.
How bad does security have to be in a country before its women have to resort to such drastic measures?  How sick does a society have to be, for it to decide that its women have to destroy their bodies, to deny themselves of any sexual gratuity?  When will women ever be allowed to be free, to walk, talk and breathe as they like?  To decide what they want to do with the natural grace, beauty and passion that they are blessed with?

I’m SICK AND BLOODY TIRED of women having to constantly feel ashamed of their bodies. Enough is Enough!!!

I know, I know, I am quick to condemn.  But I fail to wrap my brain around this, to see why it is that us, WOMEN, the bearers of life should have to deal with the nonsense we do.  Why we need to fear for our virginity and constantly be on the lookout for people ready to molest and abuse our minds and bodies.  The next time there is a war somewhere, I want to hear about an army of women marching through the villages and ravishing the local men.  I want to hear about men pleading not to be taken, screaming for mercy while some lascivious female mounts their unwilling bodies and forces them to yield that which they would rather save for a deserving person. Then we’ll see what practices would stem with the pretense of protecting you.
Oh wait, that’s never going to happen. You damn lucky bastards can turn yourselves on and off like switches. One would have to feed you an aphrodisiac in order to rape you lot.  I have a new level of anger toward your kind now 🙁
It’s past 5am and I’m still awake.  This is going to be a weird day, even for me 😮 Forgive the ranting.  I have a whole lot more to say, I just can’t finish it all in one day.




  1. Wow. That was a lot. I totally see where you’re coming from too…

    Hearing about all the suffering you ladies go through to “keep safe” is beyond sickening and causing yourself pain in the name of pleasing me is something I don’t even remotely feel possible within me.

    I can and do respect all women… it’s when they don’t respect me or value my ideals that I become a cold, uncaring, sadistic SOaB. Sure, I’m sarcastic on principle, and am not below taking a shot below the belt for laughs. But I’m centred on respecting others boundaries, and when I do hit below the belt, those who get hit know I don’t mean it and that I can take the comeuppance (barring estrangement).

    Quite the eye-opener. Thanks for sharing. More on your FB page…


    July 26, 2010
  2. *Sigh* Thank you Daixy.. I remember watching a documentary on Female Genital Mutilation at a film festival in Burkina Faso last year. It was just horrible.

    Please forgive me for not watching the video but I will definitely watch it later in the day. I’m afraid the horror will have me distracted all day.

    But seriously, some men are just cold… How wicked can you get? What annoys me is that they wait for the woman to grow before they cut the clitoris. What the fuck is that?

    I really appreciate the research you did before posting this. Keep it up gal.

    July 26, 2010
  3. Um, what to say to this. There are so many angles to the same theme, and I’d like to focus on one. I can understand why land, access to water, cultural prejudice, pride and poverty can lead to war or any kind of violence (I can understand it, but I strongly reproach it).

    But SEX. SEX being the reason for inter-State wars, secession from global churches, family feuds and vendettas, rape, hmmm. And SEX as a tool of war, of dominance etc etc. NO NO!

    The thing that I think I like most about women’s lib is the realization that a woman is beautiful if/when she thinks she is, and not when a man thinks so, or if a man thinks not, then the man prescribes the painful penance (think corsets or broken Chinese feet) the woman must pay to be called beautiful.

    However, in the case of Cameroon, although I am upset with both sides, I think I am slightly more upset with the mothers than the lechers who rape/defile little girls. But above all, I am upset with the ‘MEN’ who have been entrusted with public safety and protection. They are to blame for the mothers who have been driven by desperation to mutilate their own daughters in order to protect them! Hmm!

    July 26, 2010
  4. @ Nana Yaw, I agree with you wholeheartedly. A woman should determine her value and not the man.

    The situation in Cameroon ticks me off to no end. Like you, I’m annoyed with the two guilty parties. I place the blame equally on both sets of shoulders. The justice system needs to be worked over. Indeed it does.

    But the truth of the matter is, the breast ironing has been going on in places like Cameroon for several years. Which is why I want to place the blame also on the mothers’ shoulders. It’s not a recent thing. They’ve been carrying this out for ages! It’s the norm. I don’t care how they rationalise it. I can understand their excuse but I will never agree with it. Bringing back such a terrible practice with the pretense that it’s for the girls’ own good?

    I would hate to be one of that sect, to be called “mother” by a child that I helped to mutilate. As a mom, I’d rather run away from my country with my child on my back than allow her to be disfigured. Maybe it’s on account of I spent several years of my life thinking of myself as some misshapen creature but I’d rather die than let MY child have to deal with such unnecessary pain and eventual embarrassment.

    Isn’t it better, knowing you were born with a twisted leg, than to grow up normal and then have your body beaten into some twisted semblance of what it once was? There’s always a choice. ALWAYS! I don’t want to believe that ALL these women failed to find ANY alternative to dealing with their supposed problem. So yes, I blame the society, the culture, for making these women what they are, for brainwashing them into thinking that they do not have a choice. I blame their society for leaving their women-folk so unprotected that they would resort to such drastic measures.

    And now that I’m home, I’m gonna find my bed and sleep 🙂

    July 26, 2010
  5. Tye

    “…of course they were male) thought the female genitals were ugly and dirty for one…”—closet gays,simple.

    Loved this post; very entertaining and informative! 😀

    August 3, 2010
  6. Gosh Tye, bless and thank you 😀

    August 4, 2010
  7. Anonymous

    this is a bit late, but…. woah…. bit of generalising gtowards men going on there. we are not all woman-bashing rapists, you know.

    December 23, 2010

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